Holly Schiffrin

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  • Fredericksburg VA UNITED STATES
  • Psychological Science

Dr. Schiffrin is an internationally known expert on intensive and helicopter parenting.

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All about choice. Are meddling moms and dads failing when it comes to their kid’s post-secondary education?

Do you go to the school of your choice, your parent’s almamater or as far away from home as humanly possible? Picking a college or university is a challenge at the best of times and one that impacts most American families in one way or another.A study completed by Professor of Psychology Holly Schiffrin was cited in an article in The News Minute entitled “How Much Freedom do Students have while Choosing their Undergraduate Course?”“One study in the Journal of Child and Family Studies found that parents’ excessive involvement in their children’s lives yields unfavourable results. The lead author Holly Schiffrin argues, ‘Parents are sending an unintentional message to their children that they are not competent.’ This is in turn, could result in feelings of depression and dissatisfaction.”The path to university and college is never easy and is always a journey filled with pressure and unsolicited advice.  All the factors involved, well intended or not can come with consequences and outcomes. It’s an interesting topic and if you are covering, let one of our experts help.Dr. Holly Schiffrin is an internationally known expert on intensive and helicopter parenting. She is available to speak with media, simply click on Holly’s icon to arrange an interview.

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Helping or Hovering? The Effects of Helicopter Parenting on College Students’ Well-Being

Want to help your child succeed in college?Resist the urge to hover.“Ask how classes are going, let them know that you love and support them, but let them take the lead on how much information to share,” says helicopter parenting expert Holly Schiffrin. “It’s not your job to remind your child to complete assignments, help them with their work or try to resolve their roommate issues for them.” A developmental psychologist, Dr. Schiffrin has conducted extensive research on helicopter parenting and achieving happiness. Her works have appeared in such scholarly publications as the Journal of Child and Family Studies and the Journal of Happiness Studies. She is co-author of Balancing the Big Stuff: Finding Happiness in Work, Family and Life and has co-authored a chapter in Intensive Mothering: The Cultural Contradictions of Modern Motherhood. “The biggest gift parents can give their children is the opportunity to make their own decisions,” says Dr. Shiffrin. “Parents who “help” their children too much stress themselves out and leave their kids ill-prepared to be adults.”Dr. Schiffrin is available to speak with media regarding this topic. Simply click on his icon to arrange an interview.Source:

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Biography

A New Jersey mother routinely questions her 20-year-old’s professor about her son’s grades; a Virginia couple repeatedly allows their young children to walk home from the playground unsupervised. Are these parents out of line? Too involved or too detached?

Holly Schiffrin, professor of psychology at the University of Mary Washington, says extreme forms of parenting are unhealthy. An expert on intensive and helicopter parenting, Dr. Schiffrin says that over-controlling parents send an unintentional message to children that they can’t handle problems on their own. Free-range parenting, on the other hand, may put children in situations that they aren’t equipped to handle.

A developmental psychologist, Dr. Schiffrin is co-author of Balancing the Big Stuff: Finding Happiness in Work, Family, and Life, as well as a chapter in Intensive Mothering: The Cultural Contradictions of Modern Motherhood. Her research on helicopter parenting published in the Journal of Child and Family Studies--with colleagues and students at the University of Mary Washington--has garnered international media attention, including The New York Times, The Guardian, Real Simple magazine, and Time magazine.

Her scholarly research has been published in the Journal of Happiness Studies, the Journal of Positive Psychology, Cyberpsychology and Behavior, the Journal of Development & Behavioral Pediatrics, and Research in Development Disabilities.

Areas of Expertise

Emerging Adulthood
Helicopter Parenting
Positive Psychology
Infant and Child Development
Intensive Parenting

Accomplishments

Distinguished Graduate in Residence

2015-01-01

Awarded by the University of Mary Washington.

Kirk Danhour Memorial Award

2015-01-01

Awarded by the University of Miami for an outstanding graduate psychology student.

Jepson Fellowship

2015-01-01

Awarded by the University of Mary Washington.

Education

University of Miami

Ph.D.

Applied Developmental Psychology

1998

University of Miami

M.Sc.

Applied Developmental Psychology

1996

University of Mary Washington

B.Sc.

Psychology

1994

Affiliations

  • Virginia Association for Psychological Science : President-Elect
  • American Association for Psychological Science : Member
  • Society for the Teaching of Psychology : Member
  • Society for Research in Child Development : Member
  • International Positive Psychology Association : Member

Media Appearances

Science Suggests Parents Are Taking Parenting Too Far

MSN.com  online

2023-06-06

“When I was in college, there was no parental involvement unless there was some kind of crisis,” says Holly Schiffrin, Ph.D., professor of psychology at the University of Mary Washington. “It’s just a really different level of involvement now. Parents are giving kids feedback on their papers, or emailing or calling me and other faculty members. It’s not every student, but it’s shocking that it happens at all.”

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Netflix series ‘Old Enough’ strikes controversy in parenting style (Inklings News)

Inklings News  online

2022-05-04

“The biggest gift parents can give their children is the opportunity to make their own decisions,” Psychologist Holly Schiffrin said to the Journal of Child and Family Studies. “Parents who ‘help’ their children too much stress themselves out and leave their kids ill-prepared to be adults.”

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A 4-year-old can run errands alone ... and not just on reality TV

NPR  online

2022-04-21

"The biggest gift parents can give their children is the opportunity to make their own decisions," psychologist Holly Schiffrin wrote in the Journal of Child and Family Studies. "Parents who 'help' their children too much stress themselves out and leave their kids ill-prepared to be adults."

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Event Appearances

The Effects of Maternal and Paternal Helicopter Parenting on the Self-determination and Prosocial Behavior of Emerging Adults - 2020

32nd APS Annual Convention  Chicago, IL

The Effect of Maternal and Paternal Caregivers’ Failure Mindset and Helicopter Parenting on Emerging Adults’ Intelligence Mindset - 2020

32nd APS Annual Convention  Chicago, IL

Positive Psychology: The Science of Being Happier - 2019

Virginia Recreational Sports Association  Fredericksburg, VA

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Articles

Relationships between Helicopter Parenting, Psychological Needs Satisfaction, and Prosocial Behaviors in Emerging Adults

Journal of Child and Family Studies

2021

The purpose of this study was to examine whether psychological needs satisfaction mediated the association between helicopter parenting and emerging adults’ prosocial tendencies. There were 288 participants with an average age of 19.72 (SD = 1.77) who completed an online survey including measures of maternal and paternal helicopter parenting; satisfaction of the psychological needs for autonomy, competence, and relatedness; as well as the prosocial outcomes of empathic concern, perspective-taking, and helping others. There was an indirect effect of maternal helicopter parenting on empathetic concern, perspective-taking, and prosocial behaviors through autonomy. There was also an indirect effect of both maternal and paternal helicopter parenting on empathetic concern through relatedness. Helicopter parenting was associated with less autonomy and sense of relatedness, which were both associated with fewer prosocial tendencies among emerging adults. There were no other direct or indirect effects of maternal or paternal helicopter parenting on emerging adults’ prosocial tendencies.

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The Effects of Maternal and Paternal Helicopter Parenting on the Self-determination and Well-being of Emerging Adults

Journal of Child and Family Studies

2019

We examined gender differences in helicopter parenting and emerging adults’ well-being through the basic psychological needs of autonomy, competence, and relatedness. Based on gender congruence theory, we hypothesized that daughters’ well-being would be more adversely impacted by their mothers’ helicopter parenting compared to fathers’, while the opposite pattern would emerge for sons. Participants were 446 college students between 18–25 years old who completed an online survey. The majority of participants were white, female, underclassman from middle to upper-middle class families. Participants reported that their mothers engaged in more helicopter parenting than their fathers. Male and female participants did not differ in the amount of helicopter parenting they experienced, so we tested a model combining these sub-samples. Two minor differences were identified: Daughters reported maternal helicopter parenting was more strongly associated with decreased autonomy and sons reported paternal helicopter parenting was more strongly associated with a decreased relatedness. Thus, a partial equivalence model was tested with only these two paths free to vary between groups.

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Examining the Relationship between Helicopter Parenting and Emerging Adults’ Mindsets Using the Consolidated Helicopter Parenting Scale

Journal of Child and Family Studies

2019

The purpose of this study was to develop a consolidated helicopter parenting scale (CHPS) from five existing measures of helicopter parenting and utilize the new measure to examine the relationship between helicopter parenting and intelligence mindset. Participants were 275 emerging adults between 18–25 years of age who completed an online survey. First, we conducted an Exploratory Factor Analysis of five helicopter parenting measures to develop a scale that reliably measured participants’ reports of helicopter parenting by both their mothers and fathers. Then, we utilized the new measure to examine whether helicopter parenting mediated the relationship between emerging adults’ report of their parents’ failure mindsets and their own intelligence mindsets. The 10 items retained in the factor analysis primarily captured emerging adults’ perception that their parents’ involvement was inappropriate rather than delineating objective behaviors in which their parents engaged. Both mothers and fathers were more likely to engage in helicopter parenting when emerging adults reported their parents had a failure mindset.

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